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The following is a series
of collected essays by
Bernard W. Bail, M.D.
MOTHERS SIGNATURE
© Copyright 2001
 
1990 - Documentary Tape: History of Object Relations in Los Angeles (Can be ordered by direct request to: bbail@sbcglobal.net)
1991 - Book: Freud-Klein Controversies 1973-1977  (Can be ordered by direct request to: bbail@sbcglobal.net)
On Spirituality
2012
A Moment in Time
2011
One Two Three
2011
The Challenge of Change
2011
On the Wrong Track
2011
The Internal Saboteur - The Spine of Civilization
2011
Revelations
2011
A Proposal
2011
Coming Unglued
2011
First the Bad News
2011
The Road to Dystopia
2011
The Internal Sabeteur - The Spine of Civilization
2010
Dead in the Water
2010
The Long Hello
2010
The Longest Ongoing Story in the History of the World
2010
CODA
2010
The Big White-Out
2010
The Annunciation
2010
Suffering the Truth
2010
Who Am I?
2010
The Cat's Meow
2010
The Great Unwinding
2010
I Don't Need You, Mommy
2010
Discernment and Motherhood
2010

The Prescience of Old Age - Wordsworth Remembered
2010

On Wild Surmise...
2010
An Astonishing Revelation - Charles Cohen
2010
The Consequence of Union Upon Reunion
2010
The Molecules of Love - or Not
2010
Remembrance of Things Past
2010
The Prayer and the Gift
2010
The Awakening
2010
The Old Man Again and an Inquiry into the Theory of Everything (String Theory)
2009
Further Considerations
2009
Unloveable
2009
The Awful Truth and the Freedom it Brings
2009
Certainly Past the Middle or Near Rather than Farther
2009
The Betrayal
2009
The Psychoanalytic Foundation of Politics
2009
Evolution - The Polarity Question - and Chiefdom
2009
The Long Road Home
2009
Soliloquy on Passion, Sex, Love
and its Negative
2009
Venice Beach
2009
And Now Love
2009
Risk the Ocean
2009
Tear Down the House
2009
Masters, Slaves and Imprints
2009
Roundabout
2008
Reflections on the Global Financial Crisis
2008
Where God is
2008
The Prodigal Son
2008
Lifeline
2008
Applesauce
2008
The Untold Want
2008
Dark Matter, the Unconscious and the Divine
2008
Mankind: For Whom The Truth Tolls
2008
Broken Civilization
2007
Making a Difference
2007
The Mysterious Leap from the Mind to the Body
2007

Pavor Nocturnus or Night Terrors Revisted
2006

The More Things Change
2006

The Mother’s Signature: “The Silent Struggle”
2006
Why Dr. Dombrowski Doesn’t have a Life
2005
“Living” In Two Realities Sequel to
“ Why Dr. Dombrowski Doesn’t have a Life”
2005
On Social Justice
2005
The Hum of the Universe 2004
The Very First Lie
2003
Toward a Unitary Theory of Body and Mind
2002
Addendum to a Unitary Theory of Body and Mind 2002
The Universe is a Graveyard
2002
All Things in Heaven
2002
Psychoanalysis and the Fisher King
2001
Wounded Infants of Time 2001
A Call to a Feminine Paradigm
2001
When Bion Left Los Angeles
1999
The Brazilian Paper
1979
To Practice One’s Art
1977
Who Will Talk To The Crocodile
1975
 

THE BETRAYAL

by Bernard W. Bail, M.D.

Outrage has become the fashionable face to wear these days by certain groups and certain people.  The news has it that the Libyan, the Lockerbee bomber, al-Grahi in Scotland was freed.  He is dying of cancer and has three months to live.  That probably is true.  The hero's welcome he got on coming home to Libya has   outraged a few countries, or maybe only one country, America.  The reason is that it is all about Libyan oil.  As a consequence a few Senators gathered and immediately lashed their great anger at the idea of this welcome and that this welcome was unseemly and denied that this was done for contracts of oil.  This denial went back and forth between Scotland, England and the United States.

The kicker is apparently that the key players already knew of this a long time ago.  Even our FBI chief got a few remarks off.  Considering the state of the country, it is not terrorists we have to fear but the people who are in charge of the banks and the Federal Reserve who happen to be the same people who let the economy crash and then engineered a panic-maneuver to take billions away from all of us.

How disingenuous that these seasoned veterans on the Hill would be outraged as if this were the worst tragedy of our lives.  There was no outrage about the coming apart of the economy or any at the putting of the banks and Wall Street back in the same hands.  I wonder when the people are going to be tired of the charade that is played out almost daily in Washington.

Something happens, anything happens, and a gaggle of Senators appear to make their comments and then the Senators on the other side appear and make their comments.  All the comments are ridiculous.

All the while the needless debate about health care goes on in Washington.  The war is widening in Afghanistan.  Homes are still being foreclosed.  More people are being thrown out of work.  Chicanery and deceit continue.  Atrocities continue everywhere.  Transparency about the CIA or the Department of Justice is thwarted.  The country is amuck with despair and superficiality.

Errol Morris has written about lying in The New York Times.  I recommend that everyone read about this widespread, deep seated, long standing action in mankind itself.  Consequently it is no surprise that many famous men have commented on the subject.  "First, what is lying; it is simply trying to cause another person to reach an incorrect conclusion.  Whether this is done with work, numbers or omitted facts it is still lying.  Untrue statements, deception, misdirection, spin, public relations are simply sub-sets of lying."

Disraeli's is famous for his quote, "There are three kinds of lies; lies, damn lies and statistics".

This reminds me of a recent article by Paul Krugman in The New York Times in which the world of economics collapsed by the collapse of the economy.  Apparently economists thought they had solved the macro-economics of capitalism and that a sufficient number were of one mind about this truth (sic).  It was full of elegant mathematics.  Nonetheless people and their psychological imprint brought the system down and with it the famous Chicago School of Economics of which Milton Freidman was the guru. 

"A good lie doesn't involve proof of any kind." 

Mitchell quote: "The absence of a truth recorder in the human nervous system is unfortunate.  It renders all our statements relative – to what we believe or perceive as opposed to unalterable fact."

Schopenhauer wrote a book, The Art of Being Right.  Briefly he says there are two ways to win an argument.  There is logic and there is dialectic.  He lists thirty-eight nasty ways to win an argument using any way you can.  "Most involved were tergiversation, chicanery, deception, manipulation, etc."

Montaigne writes, "If lying had but one face, we would be on better terms for we would accept as certain the opposite of what a liar would say.  But the reverse of the truth has a hundred thousand faces and an infinite field."

In Oscar Wilde's play, The Decay of Lying, Cyril says "Lying? I should have thought that our politicians kept up that habit."  Vivian says, "I assure you that they do not.  They never rise beyond the level of misrepresentation."

As a reply to all of the above, I would say that the entire world and probably every discipline have come to the knowledge that all is not as pessimistic as one might become from reading the above.

It is clear that the learned individual and earnest individual believe there is no way of ascertaining the truth.  In this respect it would appear that only hard science contains hard truth. 

Nothing could be further from the truth.  The unconscious and the dreams it contains are constant reminders to those who pay attention to their dreams that the truth is being revealed always and not a relative truth, not a relative value, but the Truth.  The Divine can give us nothing else.

PATIENT HISTORY

The patient is a fifty-year-old woman, divorced, with a twenty-five-year-old son who is independent.  She is dark haired and dark eyed, a middling attractive woman.  She comes from New York, the youngest of three children: an elder brother followed by a sister and then herself. The brother was an accountant with a leading, worldwide firm, and helped the patient get a job with this same firm. Her major had been in business, and she had also earned an MBA from a good Eastern university. She came to Los Angeles to get away from family and in-laws after her divorce became final some ten years ago; she wanted to make a fresh start. This she has done so well that she is a mid-level manager with ambitions to go higher.

DREAM ONE

There is a book deal I am working on.  It’s a slow and frustrating process.  I am the agent on the deal and I just want it to close but it’s one of those things that will happen when it happens.

DREAM TWO

My friend Zelda and her son, Alec, come to a big event at my Temple..  I am not really involved much there anymore but they know me there.  There’s a buffet of sorts happening and I tell Zelda to go and eat and use my name to get the plate.  She tells Alec to come too, but I tell her “No, don’t take him”.  I tell her she needs to go herself and fill her plate with enough food for them both and bring it back.  I tell her that it will be a problem if she tries to take him to the table.

ASSOCIATIONS AND INTERPRETATIONS

Patient:  I think the first dream is about my life.  I’m trying to get the book of my life written and it is a slow and frustrating process for me.  In real life, it seems to be taking so much time to get my life moving in an organized and stable fashion and in a proper forward direction.

Dr. B:  How long have you been working at it?

Patient:  This month will complete eight years of our work together.

Dr. B:  Considering the various issues and problems you have had to undo and work through at the deepest levels to get to your current level of emotional health and worldly success, I would say that eight years is quite a short time to accomplish what you have accomplished and to feel as you do now.

Patient:  It is true that I feel more balanced and more at peace these days.  My emotional state is definitely better.  My life is far less complicated than it used to be.  I’m building my present and my future instead of fielding incoming missiles and cleaning up messes.  So, yes, I suppose that turning around more than four decades of life in only eight years is good.  I’m grateful for that.

Dr. B:  So, why do you think this dream is about your life?  Is it your book you are trying to do a deal for…..don’t you say that you are the agent?

Patient:  That’s true.  I am the agent so perhaps it is not my life.  In fact, as I think about it, I think I am dreaming about your life.

Dr. B:  How so?

Patient:  I have known now for a very long time from many dreams that I came here this lifetime with a purpose.  My purpose is to help you to help mankind.  Remember my dream from literally years ago where you and I were monks in a monastery and you were drawing illuminated books and it was my job to assist you?

Dr. B:  Yes, I remember that dream.  Must be six or seven years ago.

Patient:  Yes, I think so.  But the point of that dream and hundreds of others which I have had since is that I am to work as part of a process and a movement to get your ideas into the world – to let people understand the Unconscious and the imprint and the way in which they shape each person’s mind and life and, in turn, social structures, financial structures, organizations, religions – everything.

Dr. B:  So, you think you are dreaming about me?

Patient:  Yes.  I am one of the “agents” who are trying to bring your ideas into the world.  The dream says I am having trouble.  I want to get it done but I can’t.

Dr. B:  I agree that it is my paradigm that you are trying to “agent” into the world – my ideas and my scientific discoveries.

However, let us understand that these ideas have been given to me from Source and in this way I am merely the agent.  I happen to think it is so with all discoveries--that the people who make them are the agents of the Divine.

The situation of your dream shows your efforts to be amorphous.  That is because there are not enough people of erudition and emotional breadth to step forward and help you.  People are too frightened and closed down emotionally to hear and understand the new ideas.  It takes great work and courage to face these ideas and work with them, as you know from these last eight years.  The message to you is to wait.  The outcome will come when it is supposed to come – you cannot rush it.  No one can.  In the meantime, while you wait, you must fortify yourself and take care of yourself.

Patient:  I understand.  Why am I dreaming of my friend Zelda and her son?

Dr. B:  How do you feel about them?

Patient:  I like Zelda.  She’s a good person with a good heart.  She’s having rough medical problems just now and I feel sorry for her.  She’s also having problems with her rebellious teenage son.  I feel badly for her on that score, too.

Dr. B:  Why does she come to Temple with you?  Is this your Temple?

Patient:  It looks like the Temple which was my Temple for almost 20 years.  I let my membership lapse last year.  I was done with it – organized religion does not bring me any peace these days.

Dr. B:  Churches and Temples – all religions – are based on trying to have common people rely on those who have invested themselves with power – Rabbis, Priests, Ministers – whomever.

The only way to God is through these self-appointed emissaries.  So people start to worship, at some level, the “bringer” of the Divine as well as the Divine Himself.  It makes no sense.  Organized religion usurps the Divine and tries to humble and control the people.

Patient:  I don’t know how wealthy and powerful churches, mosques, temples can ever be a place of humility.  That is what God would want I suppose but the organized religions are far from humble.

Dr. B:  There is no real charity in the hearts of organized religion.  That’s why your friend Zelda can’t get food without using your name.  If she were in a place of worship that was truly giving and available, anyone could come and eat at the buffet anytime.

Patient:  Why do so many people love the Church/Temple – all organized religions – and support them to the point of death (e.g. the Crusades, the burning of heretics, the killing by fundamentalists and terrorists)?

Dr. B:  Babies worship their Mothers.  All babies look at the Mother’s faces and fall in love.  Babies will watch Mother and live for her and love her because they are imprinted with her unconscious material and believe they must take that burden from her so she will survive.  Only if she survives will the baby survive – or at least the baby believes this.  “Adults” are still functioning from that baby’s perception; only religion has become “Mom”.  People love their religion and will die for it just like babies think they must kill off their essential self to take on Mom’s illness and keep Mom alive.  Soldiers on the battlefield are adults living out the baby’s imprint of dying for their country (Mom).

Patient:  So, Churches, Temples and Mosques are Mom.  They are just stand-ins for the authority that Mom had over us as babies?

Dr. B:  Correct.  Just as we love Frank Sinatra and Elvis and Bono and other celebrities, we love the Church and Temple and Mosque.  They are all the “Mom” replacements, and we worship them like we worshipped her.  The only true worship must be of the Divine.  That has been forgotten.

Patient:  I wanted to help Zelda in real life with all of her problems.  I just don’t feel strong enough myself and don’t have the emotional or financial reserve to assist her.

Dr. B:  Your first and foremost obligation is to feed yourself first.  You must take care of all your needs first.  That is the correct thing to do.  Then when you are replenished, you can consider helping others because then you may have the generosity of heart and energy to do so.

Patient:  In the dream, I do tell Zelda to go and eat and to use my name to be able to get the plate of food.

Dr. B:  In your unconscious you are trying to help to “feed” her.

In your conscious state, you don’t have the energy but in the unconscious state you show that you want to help.

Patient:  But I tell her to load up her plate and come back with food for her son – he will not be allowed to go to the table and eat.  (Pause)  Oh, my God, I’m dreaming about Jesus, aren’t I?  He was not allowed to be accepted in his lifetime.  He could not partake of or give his message as he had hoped.

Dr. B:  I do believe you are dreaming of Jesus.  Jesus was not truly welcomed by the Church because those who control the Church do not want His true love and human kindness to be what people seek out and most want.  Then the people won’t obey those who run the Church.  Jesus was maligned by the authorities but also by those who ran organized religion – his message of loving kindness was not the message that sustained the power of those in charge.  Hence, you dream that the son (in this case, Zelda’s son, Alec) cannot eat.  In the same way, the baby cannot experience the true loving kindness of its Mother because of her unconscious projections.  And as a result, the baby does not “eat”, i.e. experience love.  And as adults, most people cannot truly experience love but instead seek the celebrities and Churches and forms of love that will never truly satisfy.  What Jesus said was true – the love of the Divine is the only true love and source of joy.

COMMENTARY

When an analyst sits down with a patient any of the following states of mind may exist or may emerge one to the other.  It might be said that what one observes in the individual mind can be a template for the mass mind.  It is especially so when the mind is not privy to the unconscious.  The information there, that is of the unconscious, tells the person exactly where he/she is and why.  This information creates a small island of ego and sanity.  It is this daily exercise that builds a strong and sane ego that will not let itself be deceived by lies, chicanery, etc.

The principles written in the prior paper, The Psychoanalytic Foundation of Politics, which I have summarized in the above paragraph, describe the mass mind that hovers or flits from anxiety to fear to despair or omnipotence or depression or to an obsessional state or into a paranoia.  This movement underlies the condition of all groups that might exist in the world from the nation to the city to lawyers associations, medical associations, unions, office workers, etc.  Because this is so, clever politicians and clever leaders can manipulate the masses into any program that they wish.  The mass mind is a most vulnerable organ and consequently can lend itself to any program good or bad.

Witness the groups today; their messages, their panic, their paranoia and witness the mass mind of Congress – giving way not to what is morally correct, but to pressures from sources which are not open and available for our, the people’s, inspection.  Even there we get a psychological response of a political mass mind, a politicians mind.  As long as the mass mind remains passive in the mode of the loser, in the mode of undeserving (the imprint), in the mind of placation, in the mind of acceptance of whatever the masters want to give, so long will this mass mind elect a leader that resembles it and acts just in that image.

The following corollary is also true.  When the mass conscious feels it has the right to enlightenment, when they feel they can no longer be slaves to themselves, in which condition they always betray themselves - then they will feel they have a right to freedom, to security, to proper care physically and emotionally to the end of their days, and it will be well.  When that time comes, a leader will emerge to put that program into effect.  It will be a program that gives all people the same freedom, the same security, the same dignity life long. 

CONCLUSION

There is probably no person in Western history who has been more talked about, written about, movies made about then Christ.  In terms of what one can make of the historical data - truth and fiction have, over these two thousand years, been confused.  One has to wonder why this has happened.  Who has it benefited that there is such confusion and, in some minds, doubt that this person ever existed?

I can think of one other great person acclaimed by all to be the greatest writer in the English language - Shakespeare.  Yet there is almost as much mystery about him.  We have more to go on that such a person actually existed, whatever his name.  We have the plays and the poetry.  Yet how and why is it that this person who occupied the center of London's stage has remained beyond our capacity to identify?  Why?  Who profits by this confusion?

Christ is regarded as the brightest illumination that walked the earth sent by Source, as indeed all of us who inhabit the earth today or a thousand years ago or in the future are all sent by Source.  Christ had but one message to give mankind, "Love one another".  Yet mankind, at least the Western world, for all the religions that have a presence, seemed to be able to do no good. They seemed to be ignored in that fundamental statement.  Of what use are any of the organized religions?  Millions of people go to church, temple or whatever facsimile.  Yet there is no peace and no love for each other.  Heads of state go to a house of God, listen to sermons but nothing changes.  Is this not the greatest betrayal of this man who, bringing his enlightenment to the world, moved the evolution of consciousness along, or at least he tried to do that.

We talk about and pride ourselves on our progress, on our understanding, on our evolution in knowledge and in our inventions.  But the most important issue remains almost anti-diluvian.

We object to each other in matters of race, color and creed.  And we object to each other in the same country, in the same city, even the same street, in the same homeowners association.  We object to each other in the same family and there are millions of men and women who object to themselves as individuals.

We have learned a lot since Christ said, "Love each other".  Enlightened people know that one must first love oneself.  So the problem of civilization comes down to this; how does it come about that individuals do hate themselves?  There has been an attempt to answer this question since man began to think and philosophize, since man began to psychologize, since man began to peer inside the mind as scientifically as they could.

It is my belief, as witnessed by my book and essays, that psychoanalysis is the best qualified science to do this and I believe I have given an answer to this question.

In the meantime the most illustrious light on earth continues to be betrayed.  It tells me that mankind does not really hold enlightenment and the source of that enlightenment to be considered real or worth anything.

It will have to remain to future generations when all is strewn about the earth - debris - proof of the bankruptcy of the intellect, to the superior truths that lie within the unconscious, accessible to all who wish to go there. 

Indeed there will be no other place to go.

Copyright © Bernard W. Bail, M.D.
September, 2009